To love is to submit, do you agree?
Thursday, June 30, 2005
♥ 6:10 PM
I came across this article in TODAY, where the writer was saying that in order for a marriage to work out, the women must learn to obey the man. (The writer is a female) The reason given is that a wife giving in to her spouse makes him a more responsible husband, and gives the children a role model to follow. Therefore, to love is to submit. Let me give this topic my two cents worth.
In my opinion, in a relationship, one should not be submitting to the other. Rather in order for a relationship to work out, mutual respect in important. Who is to decide that which gender which is usually the male gets to be the head of the household and what makes the male think that female have to submit to them and not vice versa. This set of thinking is really outdated and taken from the past where women have literally no rights at all. Regardless of male or female, we are still humans and deserve equal rights. In a relationship, it is a beautiful thing 2 different people with different character and thinking merge together as one. If there were to be a distinct head and subject, this beautiful merger is gone. This may eventually lead to quarrels in the future when one could not stand the other any longer when the effect on the love chemical fails.
Therefore, there should not be someone submitting in a relationship. Rather there should be mutual respect where decisions are made after discussions regardless of the individual capability or educational levels.
As for a role model to the children, what image is the writer trying to portray to her kids, that it’s the right thing for a female to submit to a male or that a male is the superior sex and should be obeyed. This in my opinion is a wrong message being sent to the kids. Kids tend to follow the ways of their parents and they are looking for a role model to follow as they have no identity for them to speak of. This may lead to the child having a mind that male is greater which goes back to the time when female have to fight for their rights. In this modern society, gender differences are just a diversification and not a means to separate the good and the bad. Female can be as good as or even better than many males around. With a role model of mutual respect between parents, the children will learn the importance of respecting the other genders who will work with them in the later part of their lives.
To sum it all up, in a relationship, there need no submission by anyone. Mutual respect is important as it will allow the different characters from the different people to work out well and it will too set a good image for the children to follow.
